Contributed on behalf of Cathy J. Saloff-Coste, MS, RDN, CEDRD, IC Nutritionist, Hammond Health Center
We’re in the midst of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week (NEDAW) with their message that “Hindsight is 20/20”. The focus this year is on acknowledging that eating disorders can affect anyone and that everyone struggling with an eating disorder, no matter who they are or where they are in recovery, deserves to get the treatment and support they need. By looking back at the past year’s trials and successes, we can increase awareness and understanding of eating disorders and can not only help encourage recovery but also be a part of prevention efforts.
NEDAW is a good time to assess your own thoughts about eating, body weight, and exercise. Are your attitudes in a healthy range, or could you be at risk for disordered eating?
You may be concerned about a roommate or a classmate who has recently become preoccupied with food, dieting, weight, and body image, and who seems depressed or irritable, and may be having difficulties with class, work and friendships. This friend may have an eating disorder.
Look around you, and you probably know at least one person who is in the grips of an eating disorder or who is heading down the dangerous path of disordered eating. As their friend, you want to help, but may be unsure what to do. Here are a few suggestions:
- Set aside a private time to talk to your friend.
- Share your concerns in a caring, honest, and nonjudgmental manner, but be firm. State what behaviors you have observed, and use “I” statements.
- Listen closely and respectfully to your friend’s responses.
- Avoid placing shame, blame, or guilt on your friend, and avoid conflicts and simple solutions.
- Encourage your friend to take privately (or with you) the online eating disorder screening at http://screening.mentalhealthscreening.org/hope
- Suggest that your friend explore these concerns with a counselor, doctor, or nutritionist. Offer to help make an appointment or to accompany your friend on the first visit.
- Be a good role model for healthy eating, exercise, and self-acceptance.
- Express your continued support and friendship, and state that you care and want your friend to be healthy and happy. You cannot control your friend’s decisions, but you can be a supportive friend and lead them toward help.
If you are worried that your friend is not pursuing professional help in spite of being in a state of distress, you can submit an ICare Referral at www.ithaca.edu/icare.
Recognize NEDAW this week by “coming as you are,” not as you think you should be. Reach out and connect with others. If you feel that you are or a friend is at an increased risk for an eating disorder, it is time to seek help. Early intervention is a critical first step toward opening back up to life. Know that recovery is always possible.
Check back on Friday to learn about resources on campus and online for getting help in the last of our 3-part series.